monkeywithstick wrote: ↑Wed Apr 24, 2019 9:47 am
Long wordy post about oversensitive people seeing things that might trigger them, because apparently arelith isn't kid friendly enough and stuff is 'problematic'.
Neither you nor your friends should play here then. The solution is staring you in the face; Find a social server, because clearly Arelith is not what you're looking for.
I'm going to revisit this particular point of yours, because I agree entirely with CosmicOrderV.
Torture RP may be fine for you, it would be in poor taste for others, it would be actively harmful for others, and the solution we have from some people is essentially “they probably shouldn’t play this server.” Or “They should speak out.” That is very much putting the onus on the afflicted rather than creating an environment they might like to play in.
You're damned right its putting the onus on the afflicted, because we're not mind readers. Frankly, if people cannot handle certain types of RP due to some mental issues, thats entirely on them. This server is not a hugbox, its not a safe space. We're not here to give you and your friends therapy for your issues.
Nothing done on the game should be "Actively harmful" for any of the players. If it is, that player needs to leave for their own sake and seek professional help for their own personal issues.
We slaughter eachother wholesale in game. We enslave eachother. We rob eachother. War, genocide, disease. The server and setting contain a plethora of triggers, and its 1000% unreasonable to expect us all to put on kid gloves(on top of kid gloves) and change the server to handle someone because their mind is made of glass and something someone says or does is the mental equivalent of stepping on a landmine.
Your post comes across as quite manipulative, and I'm going to be entirely blunt.
Arelith is not a safespace, because forgotten realms is not a safe space. If you and your friends cannot handle the concepts of slavery, violence, characters being creeps, etc... you lot are playing in entirely the wrong setting. The forgotten realms is a dark place, full of dark concepts. Your problem isn't that there is a missing stair. We aren't working around a 'problematic' step; The staircase is working as intended. Your problem is that for various reasons, you and your friends can't handle the staircase at all, and should go elsewhere where there is a ramp to handle your handicap.
IC creeps are definitely a thing, and yes, they can cross the line between fine and totally not okay every so often(and thats where DMs come in), but there is nothing wrong with characters, especially evil ones, that are creepy. The phantom of the opera is a great example, his creepyness is done tastefully. He's aggressively romantic towards Christine, but at no point does he cross the line into sexual assault. He kidnaps her, demands she profess her love to him, and holds her true lover hostage. She agrees, he realizes he doesn't want her because its not the same if she doesn't mean it, and he releases her as the peasants with torches and pitchforks close in. Its literally a classic, and one of the most famous operettas in history.
And while that particular theme is dark, its a beacon of light compared to the vast majority of the forgotten realms itself, of which Arelith is already a very toned down version of it.
And I'm going to come back to this once more, because the logic here bothers the hell out of me.
Torture RP may be fine for you, it would be in poor taste for others, it would be actively harmful for others, and the solution we have from some people is essentially “they probably shouldn’t play this server.” Or “They should speak out.” That is very much putting the onus on the afflicted rather than creating an environment they might like to play in.
I'm part of the kink community, and your arguement that some people might not want to, or be able to, voice their concern regarding content is a concept we hear a lot about people who, for whatever dysfunctional reason, can't seem to voice a safeword. I'm going to tell you what we tell people like that, because you should really take it to heart.
"If you can't voice a safeword, you need to have a conversation with those you're playing with so that they'll know to check on you, figure out a workaround, or not play at all. Your partner is not responsible for you. You are."
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